Gossip

Yak, yak, yak.  Sometimes it seems that is what I’m hearing all day long.  Doesn’t matter if I’m in the grocery store, at work or alone.  There always seems to be chatting inside my head and around me.  Different scenarios come into play whether from disappointment, anger, jealousy or confusion.

I am trying not to engage in the rhetoric which seems to creep into my everyday life.  Someone does something that is inappropriate (according to whomever!) but seems perfectly ok with them.  I once did a film that involved a  despicable character. I asked the actor how he was able to play such a horrible human being.  He gave me a book to read with some very deep and moving essays.  I was shocked to find out they were written by Hitler, Stalin and Mussolini. Not to say I am looking to emulate their teachings!  God forbid.  My point is that when looking at your own perspective of things it seems you can justify any behavior.  I have come to always say to myself that I can’t control what is outside of me.  I can only control how I react.

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Support

SupportI think everyone needs support at one point in their life.  Whether it be financial, personal, spiritual or mental.  I have always had a hard time asking for support.  I learned at a very early age about survival and if I asked for support it showed I was weak.  I wasn’t strong enough to handle the task at hand.  And with that defiance  came a shell. A very hard shell.  Get past that shell and I was a push over.  But good luck getting past that shell.

Trust has a lot to do with whether or not you will allow someone to support you.  I always had it in the back of my head that I was going to pay a price sooner or later.  Whether that was an agenda or whether it was with money but I always looked at relying on someone as a dangerous road to take.

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Integrity

IntegrityThroughout my life I have known many people who have inspired me.  I have met people who have taught me that no matter what you can push through any adversity with good old fashion determination.  Yet I have been at a point where I don’t seem to be able to succeed even with the best intention.  I’m not just talking about career.  I’m talking about questioning when, even after hard work, focus and drive, life throws that proverbial wrench in the mix.

This week I have witnessed integrity on a different level.  I have been to the Olympic games before and seen people’s dreams dashed in a split second after many years of hard work.  And four years later I see them again and I am amazed they have the same determination and drive as before.  Some of them know what their dream is at such a young age and are brimming with a self confidence I wish I had now!

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